Post written and submitted by Jax
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I started writing this as a ‘how to’ about my experience with self-love while being gay.
A couple days after my first draft was done, Australia announced a national postal vote on whether same-sex marriage should be legalised.
This is now ‘self love: while the entire country decides if you deserve to love, wooo!!’
Over the last couple of months I’ve been feeling a lot of things. If you haven’t guessed by now, the main one is anger. My love is being debated on, whether it is right, worthy or even real. Growing up and realising that you are ‘different’ to the majority is hard. There is a fear that you will never be considered normal. Personally I got over this pretty quickly and embraced the fact that no one is normal and that there is no normal, but during this time it is hard not to feel divided. Having to find out if the general public, including your friends and family might not think to highly of the ‘the gays’ getting married is hard.
It’s not nice to be talked about when you’re not in the room.
I’m not even in the country.
Imagine how that feels.
At the beginning of the year my family packed up and moved to Bali, Indonesia. So even though I’m no longer in Australia, knowing that I still have friends that are being affected by this vote, it hurts. I’m stuck over here getting updates through my phone. Scrolling through social media to see the latest antics of the NO voters. In Melbourne, my hometown, they have taken to hiring skywriters to make their ‘NO’ very visible, all over the sky.
Here are some things to do while we wait to see the results: (even though they are not legally binding and this whole shenanigan is pointless and expensive.)
#1. The first basic one would be to vote YES, if you can vote of course.
#2. Know that there are people on your side – 81% of young people support you! Young people are the future. So try to ignore you’re uncle who loves sharing his anti equality views all over Facebook! Or even better block him!
#3. Get off social media!! For me, this is an important one. The main way I’m getting info and listening to peoples stories is on my phone. But spending time reading through peoples negative views, are never going to help. Take time to unplug. Get outside, spend time with people who are supporting and caring. Pat a dog.
#4. If you are struggling, please remember there are help lines you can call. Here are a few: Kids Help Line (up to 25yrs) on 1800 55 1800, Lifeline 13 11 14 and QLife* (for LGBTI people, between 3pm-12am) on 1800 184 527. If you need help, it is there, and you don’t have to justify yourself or how you feel to anyone to get it.
#5. Check out positive media!! Like this website that is sharing so many beautiful stories of support http://www.standwithme.org.au/ or listen to some gay Australian artists! Alex the Astronauts ‘Not worth hiding’ has been my favourite the last couple weeks.
Well.. Australia I return July 2018, you have until then to turn your childish ways around, and legalise love.
Until then please know that you are loved, you deserve love and a thousand laminations xx